How To Not Be Mediocre
Welcome back to another episode of Diary of a Worthy Pursuit! In today’s episode, titled “How not to be mediocre,” we dive into the fascinating topic of shattering the chains of mediocrity and embracing a life of extraordinary pursuits. Join us as we explore the powerful concept of taking initiative and stepping out of our comfort zones to achieve our dreams. We’ll uncover the hidden traps of settling for average and discuss personal stories that highlight the importance of challenging ourselves to reach new heights. From learning valuable lessons about pushing our limits to discussing the impact of fear and complacency, we leave no stone unturned in our quest to inspire you on your own journey of excellence. So grab your favorite beverage and get ready for an enlightening conversation that will propel you towards a life of purpose, growth, and unbridled success. Get ready, because it’s time to unlock the secrets of how not to be mediocre. Let’s dive in!
Podcast Transcription:
Speaker A [00:00:06]:
So when I was in college, graduation really snuck up on me. Now to be fair, I had studied abroad. I came back 1st semester and then graduated early because I was all about getting out of there, so I owed that college less money. But I say, graduation snuck up on me because I didn’t have a plan. And so then I was like, oh, no. It’s the end, and now I need to find a job. And that shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. Right? When you graduate college, you do look for a job.
Speaker A [00:00:34]:
But because I didn’t have the foresight to look forward and see Cot, I just settled for the first thing that came across. I was so excited to get my job as a sales manager at a failing that I ended up not really loving because you can’t sell something that you don’t believe in. Right? But yet I settled for mediocre because I didn’t have the foresight to see what was coming in front of me? So that’s what we’re gonna talk about today.
Speaker B [00:01:01]:
Welcome to Diary of a Worthy Pursuit.
Speaker A [00:01:03]:
Where we talk about how to get what you Cruelly One in life and in business.
Speaker B [00:01:07]:
So the crazy Holiday Inn, beat up, run down, shutters falling?
Speaker A [00:01:11]:
I wouldn’t say shutters falling. Right? Like, on the on the surface, everything was okay. It was a little outdated. It needed some work. But, like, a lot of these things, you’re in the service business. You’re not just selling the room. You’re selling customer service. You’re selling events, you’re selling the quality of the food, and a lot of that you don’t get insight into until you’re in it.
Speaker A [00:01:29]:
Yeah. Unless you know you wanna be in the hotel industry, and then you’re kind kind of checking everybody out before you go Sure. So I really didn’t know what I was getting into. Frankly, I was just excited to have a job. And when it was it was pitched to me key in the best way, the director of sales is a wonderful human, but she was in recruitment mode. Oh, yeah. She’s like, you’re going to be the face of the hotel to the community, you’re like, that sounds cool. I’ll be the face of the hotel to the community.
Speaker A [00:01:55]:
Yeah. That sounds like a great job. And then you get in it, and you’re like, oh, this is not what I wanna do.
Speaker B [00:02:00]:
That is not the place you wanna be the face of?
Speaker A [00:02:02]:
Not feel good. No. So a lot of lessons learned there, but I think the the ultimate thing that the high level lesson that I learned is that, hey. You just gotta pick your head up every once in a while and see where you’re going because this big life stuff can’t just run into you, you need to see it coming.
Speaker B [00:02:18]:
So who do you think is running that place now? Presuming it’s the same place it was.
Speaker A [00:02:23]:
Oh, gosh. I I don’t know.
Speaker B [00:02:25]:
Do you think that they just keep going through people, or do you think it’s
Speaker A [00:02:28]:
Well, hopefully, they’ve remodeled it and improved and improved service.
Speaker B [00:02:31]:
Okay.
Speaker A [00:02:32]:
But, I don’t know. I would say that the management company that was managing it is probably no longer managing it.
Speaker B [00:02:37]:
Okay. Alright. It didn’t work out.
Speaker A [00:02:40]:
It didn’t work my writing was on the wall. But what is interesting about that is that in a lot of things, you can’t be mediocre in customer service.
Speaker B [00:02:48]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:02:49]:
Right? You are either if you’re not great, you might as well be terrible because
Speaker B [00:02:54]:
Fair to a point. Yeah.
Speaker A [00:02:55]:
Because the in between is this like, well, they were alright. They’re not memorable. So, like, I’m not gonna go back there. Right. You know? I’m not gonna tell everyone not to go there, but I’m not gonna go back there because it wasn’t great. Mhmm. And so if it’s not great, then, like, what are you doing? What do you why are you putting your time into it?
Speaker B [00:03:14]:
See what you’re saying. Cab Reminds me, my buddies and I went on a trip to Arizona, right after high school. Road trip Yeah. In my buddy’s 61 Buick. And, we had some his neighbors came with us in a different car behind us, and they only wanted to stop at Denny’s and McDonald’s the whole trip The whole trip and I’m like, you gotta be crazy. We’re going across the country, right, hundreds of miles away
Speaker A [00:03:42]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:03:42]:
In new and exciting places, and we’re gonna eat at places that we could get anywhere.
Speaker A [00:03:47]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:03:48]:
And it was one of those, like well, their argument was, we know what we’re getting. We don’t wanna get sick at some other place. And my argument was, well, McDonald’s, you’re probably guaranteed to be sick. Yeah. Right. Yeah. But their whole thing was we’re going after the mediocre that we know instead of striving for something more that we may or may not know. Maybe good, maybe not good.
Speaker A [00:04:10]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:04:10]:
But I was just like, oh my gosh. It hurt. Hurt the trip.
Speaker A [00:04:14]:
Well but how many people do you know in life? Now let’s take this to people, to humans, who are in that cut, in that space, right, they’re like, well, I’d rather settle for this thing that I know than reach for something and fail.
Speaker B [00:04:27]:
Sure. W no versus w don’t.
Speaker A [00:04:29]:
Exactly. And we feel that way times of politics.
Speaker B [00:04:32]:
Right? Yeah.
Speaker A [00:04:32]:
Right. But I think as humans, we are sometimes scared to take the risk, and so we’re just like, oh, mediocrity. That’s k
Speaker B [00:04:40]:
Right? So there’s a fear mentality?
Speaker A [00:04:42]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:04:43]:
Yeah. I think of the first, I’m gonna call it my 1st job. But my first Job there, I was making more than $5 an hour. Mhmm. I ended up getting fired from that job and which is fine. But it’s one of those where I was thinking after canned, I was thinking if I didn’t get fired, I would have stayed there indefinitely Yeah. Until they went out of business, which they did eventually. But I would have been stuck at that job.
Speaker B [00:05:09]:
Oh, I say stuck, but that’s not accurate. I would have been at that job because stuck would be like, hey. I go to work. I punch out. I move on with my life, rinse, repeat. Everything’s cool. Mhmm. And I would have been stuck in that little rut, I guess, and just happy.
Speaker B [00:05:26]:
Yeah. I was doing really well at it. I there’s a lot of people that I I guess clients and stuff like that that was taking care of. It was fun to a point, but it wasn’t I don’t know if I’d necessarily Say it was great. There was no room for advancement.
Speaker A [00:05:40]:
Mhmm. So it’s
Speaker B [00:05:41]:
one of the like, I’d be there 30 years Yeah. Or something.
Speaker A [00:05:44]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:05:44]:
So I guess, also going it reminds me of the, like, the UAW strike that’s going on. Right? These guys I remember seeing this picture of these guys with signs, and they all look Out of shape, kinda lumpy, frumpy. I’m like, I wonder when the last time these guys smiled was.
Speaker A [00:06:01]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:06:02]:
Like, what are you fighting for?
Speaker A [00:06:04]:
Yeah. That’s a great point. And, again, because when we get stuck
Speaker B [00:06:07]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:06:08]:
It’s hard to see the other side of stuck. We’d rather just be in what we’re used to and so I think with small business owners or folks who wanna start a business, this really finds itself playing. I in the way I see it 2 ways. First is you’re scared to take that leap to start a business because you’re like, well, what I’m doing is just fine.
Speaker B [00:06:26]:
Like, may
Speaker A [00:06:26]:
not be great? Fine. But it’s just fine. Kine, I’m sailing along fine. Mhmm. So there’s 1 area where maybe you’ve got some opportunity to shake it up. But the 2nd area is maybe you’ve been in business for a few years, 5 years, and you’re like, oh, this is smooth sailing. I’m doing alright. I’m not gonna rock the boat.
Speaker A [00:06:44]:
What has been working keeps working, and so it’s fine. Right? You’re not ready to take it to the next level, so you’re just hanging here but I think that those are really 2 extreme danger zones because when we get stuck in this just fine, we don’t know what could be better, and we don’t ever wanna look back on our lives and think, what if
Speaker B [00:07:05]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:07:06]:
What if I would have done that thing? And I was reading something that said at, there was a nurse who’s done a book that talked about what you’re just talking to people on their deathbeds, they were never talking about, like, the the risk that they took and failed. They were always lamenting on the what if, the thing they didn’t do Okay. Rather than the risk they took and they failed. Because at least if they took it and failed, they knew. Mhmm. But if they didn’t do it, they were always left wondering.
Speaker B [00:07:30]:
Interesting. Yeah. The the regret. Mhmm. The feeling interesting. I like that. I was just reading the book. Oh my gosh.
Speaker B [00:07:38]:
I can’t think of it. I think it’s a lot of it stems from The Art of War, though, by Sun Tzu. Mhmm. So it had a saying that said, never fight your last war. So and last is, we define that a little bit. So not last like ending
Speaker A [00:07:55]:
Mhmm.
Speaker B [00:07:56]:
But your most recent one. So every challenge that you have, what you did to get over that challenge is not necessarily gonna be what can get you over this next one. So it’s interesting because I’m like, oh, that’s polar opposite of having systems in place.
Speaker A [00:08:10]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:08:11]:
But on the flip side, it’s So an awareness that you can you can pivot or you can adapt
Speaker A [00:08:15]:
Or optimize. Yeah. Yeah. Right.
Speaker B [00:08:17]:
Where then where you’re willing to do that because you’re not mediocre, But because you’re willing to change or adapt. Yeah. So it’s interesting.
Speaker A [00:08:26]:
Kind of
Speaker B [00:08:26]:
fun thing.
Speaker A [00:08:27]:
That is a really fun quote. Well, today, we’re gonna talk about how to not be mediocre, right, we talked about the reasons maybe why you would wanna escape this mediocrity trap. But I think step 1 is just knowing where you’re going
Speaker B [00:08:39]:
right. You’re going.
Speaker A [00:08:40]:
There’s a lot of places that you can go, but if you don’t know which one you wanna get to, it doesn’t really matter what path you take. Right?
Speaker B [00:08:46]:
Yeah. Yeah. It was interesting when we were talking about this before, and you mentioned the goal thing. I was like, oh, of the people I know that have Easily definable goals. You can tell that they’re striving for something, so they’re pushing themselves. There was an easy goal like, hey. I wanna grab this cup Whatever. But if there’s something like, I wanna own 5,000,000,000 cups
Speaker A [00:09:08]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:09:08]:
Or 5,000,000,000 cups, I’d have to really push myself in order to get, Whatever. Place the store. 5 train cups or something like that. So I’d have to advance as a person, get some knowledge, and meet some people, and do all these things
Speaker A [00:09:20]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:09:20]:
That was gonna help me grow as a person. But if I have no goal or mediocre goals, I’m not gonna push myself at all.
Speaker A [00:09:27]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:09:27]:
I’m gonna sit in front of the TV and be just fine with that. Yeah. So boo.
Speaker A [00:09:31]:
Well, I
Speaker B [00:09:32]:
think podcast.
Speaker A [00:09:34]:
Maybe you’re listening rather than watching. But the we’re talking about Arnold Schwarzenegger and how he’s just releasing a book or has recently and I was listening to him on a podcast, and one of the things he talked about is vision and how if we don’t have CoVision, that it’s just easy to go through the motions and just to stay status quo. So the example that he used is he went from, you know, just being a high school kid saying, I wanna be mister universe, and people were like, maybe you should check your expectations. Maybe you should be like mister Austria or mister Europe before you aim for mister universe, he was like, no. Because I knew I wanted to be mister universe, when I showed up in a gym, I knew what my goal was, and so I had a purpose for being there. It’s like, I don’t know how many people I’ve seen in the gym who are just there to be there, who are just going through the motions, and so any little single do and so he’s like, I wish I could just shake those people and say, just have a goal. Like, even if it’s like, I want our muscles or I want to, like, be able to run a mile, whatever it is, just have some kind of goal so you know what you’re working toward, so you’re striving to your
Speaker B [00:10:37]:
Yeah. He had the thing I read his autobiography, and he was talking about how the bodybuilders that he saw in the gym a lot were the laziest people he’s ever met. Because here in the gym and outside of the gym, they just didn’t do anything.
Speaker A [00:10:51]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:10:51]:
And, he was always pushing, got into real estate, did the, using masonry and stuff like that. Always trying to advance. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Super cool.
Speaker A [00:10:59]:
Well and what I love about that is that I do feel, that when you are filling your cup, when you’re working on yourself, if you’re doing it in the right way, then as you fill cup, the overflow fills everything else. So it’s not like the, hey. If I’m gonna pour myself into the gym, then the time I put in there is a sacrifice that I’m gonna take away from my family, from my business, these other things Mhmm. What I found is that the more you put in there and you invest in yourself, that overflow really falls into those other areas of life. Yeah. You’re not taking away because when you’re striving in one place, you show up better in the other places.
Speaker B [00:11:31]:
Fair. And it’s also good to even Schwarzenegger as an example that you inspire other people.
Speaker A [00:11:37]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:11:38]:
So think about when you strive for something, other people, your kids, whatever, spouse, friends, family, whatever, see you striving for that thing, and then it helps Them want to strive for something else as well.
Speaker A [00:11:49]:
Yeah. You know, you never know who’s watching.
Speaker B [00:11:52]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:11:52]:
Right? I mean Very true. We always know our kids are watching, but there’s even in your business journey, I find it interesting. I was just talking to someone who’s a a LinkedIn content creator yesterday. She was talking about how just because people don’t engage, like or whatever in your content anywhere, not just on LinkedIn, doesn’t mean they’re not watching, doesn’t mean they’re not paying attention. So, you know, she’s like, I had somebody reach out to me who’s like, I’ve been following you for years. I feel like I know who you are. And she’s like, I had no idea who this person was because they’ve never interacted with me before, but they were watching.
Speaker B [00:12:22]:
Alright.
Speaker A [00:12:22]:
And every step that I took because I pushed for so long Mhmm. They saw me striving.
Speaker B [00:12:27]:
Interesting. Yeah. Well, super cool.
Speaker A [00:12:29]:
Isn’t it?
Speaker B [00:12:29]:
Little creepy, but cool.
Speaker A [00:12:32]:
I guess when you’re starting a business, you gotta hope that people are watching.
Speaker B [00:12:35]:
Right? Yeah. I I like to tell my employees that if you consider what it took for you to get here Mhmm. And here at this job, I mean, that’s part of it a little bit, but just here where you are in life. Right? We have access to tons of stuff. Mhmm. All the information at your fingertips. Right. If you want food, you got food, man.
Speaker B [00:12:52]:
It’s everywhere. You wanna get somewhere, drive, fly, train, whatever, transportation’s everywhere. I think, what if you went back a 100 years Or 200 years.
Speaker A [00:13:02]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:13:02]:
I was even just reading something about, Ben Franklin had a place in London. It’s the last remaining place where Ben Franklin lived. That’s still up.
Speaker A [00:13:11]:
Okay.
Speaker B [00:13:12]:
He was there, during 17 seventies, whatever. There’s a 16 year period Where he had a wife and kids in the US, and he only saw them one time. Oh, wow. And they said it like, look at this terrible person. Really? Terrible dad. And strong argument could be made there to a point. But I’m like, what does it take to cross the ocean in 1774 or whatever?
Speaker A [00:13:35]:
Mhmm.
Speaker B [00:13:35]:
Like, that had to be a huge undertaking. People dying, starving, all this kind of stuff, stores in your wooden sailing boat. Yeah. Right? Versus now, you wanna go to London, no big thing. We’ll buy a ticket. We’ll be there in whatever.
Speaker A [00:13:48]:
8 hours.
Speaker B [00:13:49]:
Yeah. Boom. Just like that.
Speaker A [00:13:51]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:13:51]:
So it’s interesting to say, like, before it would have taken months for him to get there, months to go back, He just had goals that didn’t necessarily align with that. Yeah. So it’s kinda interesting.
Speaker A [00:14:03]:
So in this in this era of access, media mediocrity is a choice.
Speaker B [00:14:09]:
Oh, absolutely.
Speaker A [00:14:10]:
Because I think there are to your point, and there are points in history where we just didn’t have access.
Speaker B [00:14:15]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:14:15]:
But now with this access, inaction in and of itself is a choice.
Speaker B [00:14:20]:
Absolutely. Yeah. A decision not to make a decision Right. A decision. But I feel like to me, it’s like if you put leftovers in the fridge, If you just let them sit there, they’re gonna become fuzzy, moldy, and gross. You gotta throw them away. Right?
Speaker A [00:14:33]:
Yeah. But I
Speaker B [00:14:34]:
feel like this little bit with people. If they don’t take action or do something Freeze. I don’t know. Do whatever however, before you wanna take that analogy. Yeah. If you don’t do something, they’re gonna get kinda moldy and lame.
Speaker A [00:14:45]:
Yeah. So
Speaker B [00:14:46]:
Kelowna and
Speaker A [00:14:46]:
ice bath
Speaker B [00:14:47]:
Yeah.
Speaker A [00:14:47]:
Those morning ice baths that everyone’s into right now.
Speaker B [00:14:49]:
Yeah. Super cold? Yeah.
Speaker A [00:14:50]:
Alright. So step 1, have some goals. Have some kind of vision for your life, step 2 on how to be how to not be mediocre is just, again, thinking about those people who are around you. So I don’t remember who popularized this idea, but maybe it was Dale Carnegie.
Speaker B [00:15:07]:
Okay.
Speaker A [00:15:08]:
But the idea that you think about your life in your eulogy. Right? So fast forward to the end of your life and then picture, you know, who would who would be at my funeral? Who would be there? Who could be celebrating my life, what kinds of things would they say about me? What do I want them to say? Not what would they say if this happened tomorrow, but what would I want them to say? And then start planning your life such that you’re building toward that, like, like, ideal version of you or future version of you. Right? But the the goal of leg is the goal of leg is Oh. You know? What are you leaving behind? Because then you have something to work toward.
Speaker B [00:15:44]:
And that idea of, like,
Speaker A [00:15:44]:
well, you know, your kids saying, like, oh, that idea of, like, well, you know, your kids saying, like, oh, mom was a deadbeat who never chased her dreams. Like Oh. Ugh. That’d could be soul crushing
Speaker B [00:15:55]:
if I
Speaker A [00:15:55]:
have my kids ever say that. So
Speaker B [00:15:57]:
Man, someone sit up from their caskets.
Speaker A [00:15:59]:
Yeah. Right. I need some more time. But, yeah, that’s one of the things that I’ve heard is you wanna see a place of wasted dreams go to a graveyard. Oh. Because there’s just there’s so many dreams that we don’t take action on, but when you live life intentionally of saying, at the end of my life, what do I want to have accomplished? How do I wanna leave of the people in my life feeling Mhmm. You know which direction you’re headed a little better.
Speaker B [00:16:23]:
Alright. That’s cool. I really like that. Yeah. So what do you want people to say at your eulogy?
Speaker A [00:16:28]:
I want people to say that they felt loved and they felt like they I gave them some grace. I inspired some change. Oh. Yeah.
Speaker B [00:16:35]:
How about you? Some oh, man. Inspired some change. Can I copy yours? Sure. I don’t know about the grace thing. Yeah. You inspired some change. That’s, That’s cool. Yeah.
Speaker B [00:16:44]:
Yeah. Because I I would joke with people when I was doing my coaching Mhmm. Seem like I don’t care if you think that I’m a jerk As long as you understand that what I said came from the heart and my experience, and I don’t want you to make the same mistakes that I’ve seen or experienced
Speaker A [00:16:58]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:16:59]:
And that you actually make the change. If you hate me for it, it’s fine. I’m okay.
Speaker A [00:17:02]:
Well, I think that that’s a that’s another little nugget here is that do you wanna be liked, or do you wanna be respected? Do you
Speaker B [00:17:08]:
good, do
Speaker A [00:17:08]:
you wanna be liked, or do you wanna go after your goals? Right? There’s this whole idea of I just I need to be the good girl or the good boy and not ruffle any feathers, right, like, who cares? At the end of the day, you have you and only you and, you know, your family whoever you decided to surround yourself with. Right? So what are you willing to settle for, essentially?
Speaker B [00:17:28]:
Right. That’s totally it. Yeah. What is the standard that you’re going after and what are you going to accept?
Speaker A [00:17:33]:
Oh, that’s a great Yeah. Great point. So another idea here on how to not be mediocre is to to raise the raise the standard. Right. Raise the raise the floor. Right? Because you’re only able to accomplish the things in which you believe
Speaker B [00:17:46]:
Mhmm. You are
Speaker A [00:17:47]:
able to accomplish. So if you don’t think you can have a business, you know, we had a $1,000,000 business.
Speaker B [00:17:51]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:17:51]:
And so it’s the story you’re telling yourself about what you can accomplish, my poor child, we’re at the we’re at the playground yesterday. We’re killing some time before a parent teacher conference. And, I mean, we’re doing this challenge around the playground, he goes down the slide. He climbs up. I have to do what he does, kinda like horse. If I can’t do it, I get a letter. Oh. But not with basketball, because he’s 6.
Speaker A [00:18:12]:
Okay. So it’s climbing slides and monkey bars and ziplining stuff. And so there’s one of these rolling slides. Have you seen the rolling bar slides? There’s, like, a 100 rolling bars, and as you go down, your butt shakes. As you go down this thing Alright. And I think it’s meant to be more for little kids. But you go down this thing
Speaker B [00:18:31]:
Probably.
Speaker A [00:18:31]:
And then he climbs up this thing, and I’m like, how in the world am I gonna do that? I’m gonna fall on my face and break my nose. Oh. Right? But so and so I’m like, how did I how do I do this? How how do I go through? And so he’s explaining it to me, blah blah blah, and I get to the top. And I hear, see, I believe that you could do it, and that helped do you believe you could do it? And you did it. And I was like, oh my gosh. Do you ever just hear your own words come out of your children’s mouth Yeah.
Speaker B [00:18:55]:
Usually, they’re 4 letter, but it’s okay.
Speaker A [00:18:57]:
You are listening. Right? Good or bad, you are
Speaker B [00:19:00]:
listening. Right.
Speaker A [00:19:00]:
But it’s like well, it’s the story that we tell ourselves. Right, so as much as I’m trying to help him instill a positive story, you know, good or bad or whatever happens, it’s a good reminder for us to to believe that, like, hey. I can accomplish what I think I can accomplish.
Speaker B [00:19:15]:
Yeah. Yeah. Believe to achieve kind of thing.
Speaker A [00:19:17]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:19:18]:
That’s super cool. I have, from Tony Robbins thing. I don’t know if that’s a Tony Robbins originated, but I heard it from him. A whole, if you can’t, then you must. I was in a park with my kid, and he did Running and then jumping under a swing on his gut, and then he also flying through. And I was like, if you can’t, then you must. And yeah. It’s interesting, fun, heard a little bit.
Speaker B [00:19:38]:
But it’s also one of those where you have to. Because otherwise, what are you showing your kid?
Speaker A [00:19:42]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:19:42]:
That it can’t be done or I’m not willing to do it or something, So you gotta go?
Speaker A [00:19:46]:
Right. Yeah. So I think a lot of us tell the story to ourselves of, like, well, I’m just not ready. Or or or what if I fail? Or, you know, I was just not meant for that. Mhmm. And so I just challenge able to just say, well, is that empowering or not?
Speaker B [00:20:03]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:20:03]:
You know? Totally fair. We all have these, what are they limiting beliefs versus liberating truths. Right? So if you try to check yourself in the moment and be like, I could never start a business, and you’d be like, well, why? What is the limiting belief there? Like, I’m not good with money, let’s say that’s your limiting belief. Okay. Then how do you turn that into something that’s more empowering, that’s a liberating truth of, like, I am willing to learn to be good with money so I can leave a legacy for my family. Yeah. You know, what is something that’s the flip side that turns cut into something that powers and motivates you instead.
Speaker B [00:20:36]:
Liberating truth. I like that. I never heard that before. Yeah.
Speaker A [00:20:38]:
That’s a Michael Hyattism.
Speaker B [00:20:40]:
Alright. Limiting belief. I’ve certainly heard of that. Yeah. But, Yeah. Liberating liberating truth. I’m sorry.
Speaker A [00:20:45]:
Mhmm. Liberating truth. Love that. Yeah.
Speaker B [00:20:47]:
That’s super cool. The other thing, I guess that I see in this is a lot of people going on that like or are comforted by playing the victim.
Speaker A [00:20:57]:
Yes. I
Speaker B [00:20:58]:
can’t because of x. Something that’s completely out of my control.
Speaker A [00:21:01]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:21:01]:
Or I will after New Year’s. Right? This arbitrary date that has nothing to do with whatever it is I’m trying to do.
Speaker A [00:21:06]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:21:07]:
I wanna place that, and so I can kick the can down the road.
Speaker A [00:21:11]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:21:11]:
Or I can’t because whatever. Mhmm. That may or may not have anything to do with what you’re doing trying to do. Yeah. Or maybe even thinking about doing.
Speaker A [00:21:21]:
True. True. So getting rid of your victim mentality. Right? Trying to check yourself and just be honest and say k.
Speaker B [00:21:27]:
Yeah.
Speaker A [00:21:27]:
Am I playing the victim card here? And then also feeling that, well, I need to be active in my own rescue because no one’s coming to help me. You know? I think I’ve talked about that before on this podcast that my health Journey was one of those areas where I didn’t feel like conventional medicine was going to help me, and I wasn’t gonna play victim of that. I decided, no. I need to be active my own rescue Uh-huh. And take ownership
Speaker B [00:21:47]:
Yeah.
Speaker A [00:21:47]:
Of this because no one else is going to. Right? So that idea if there’s a dream in your heart or there’s a business that you want you have and you wanna grow, no one’s gonna do it for you.
Speaker B [00:21:57]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:21:57]:
But, again, it’s it’s first identifying that track before you can change it.
Speaker B [00:22:02]:
Right. Yeah. You can’t outsource your push ups. Right? Yeah. Right. You do. Can’t hire anyone else. That’s interesting.
Speaker B [00:22:09]:
How many people have you met Or heard about Mhmm. That had a similar situation to you that just rolled over and said, I guess, this is how I’m gonna live. Or
Speaker A [00:22:18]:
Way too many. That’s where the health coaching industry thrives. You know? There’s and it’s a growing industry, and there’s plenty and plenty of space because so many of us have been caught that this is you outsource your health.
Speaker B [00:22:30]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:22:31]:
You know? Like you say, you can’t outsource your push ups.
Speaker B [00:22:33]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:22:34]:
In theory, though, we’ve been taught, well, if there’s something wrong, go to the doctor.
Speaker B [00:22:37]:
Yeah. They’ll
Speaker A [00:22:37]:
fix it
Speaker B [00:22:38]:
up like a light switch.
Speaker A [00:22:39]:
Right. Just take this pill. Everything will be better. Right? And we know that that’s not the case now, but it’s how co previous generations were programmed or even depending on your environment when you grow up, your environment programs you. So I’d say that there’s a a really high majority of the people in our country operate in that way.
Speaker B [00:22:55]:
Totally. Yeah. I was trying to think what the statistic was about the number of people that are on prescription drugs routinely.
Speaker A [00:23:01]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:23:02]:
Oh my gosh.
Speaker A [00:23:03]:
Yeah. So well, that’s why we have a whole industry that makes It’s insane. 1,000,000,000 or 1,000,000,000,000 of dollars.
Speaker B [00:23:09]:
Yeah. I remember reading that statistic. I forget what it was. It’s I wanna say 60 or 70%. It’s a lot. And I remember I was in a room, networking room, and I’m looking around, and I’m like, can I really imagine 70% of the people here routinely taking a pill of some kind? Yeah. And then I thought, well, I have a very hard time wrapping my head around that. Mhmm.
Speaker B [00:23:31]:
And then I thought, how many people here are taking a pill for something That they’re still not fixed.
Speaker A [00:23:37]:
Yeah. They’re just masking it.
Speaker B [00:23:38]:
Yeah. Right.
Speaker A [00:23:39]:
And that’s that’s another really great point is that we tend to settle.
Speaker B [00:23:42]:
Mhmm.
Speaker A [00:23:43]:
Absolutely. We tend to think that, you know, hey. I can’t get that thing, so I’m just gonna settle right here where I’m comfortable. Right? I just had, I’m doing this 90 day challenge with with some folks as we push toward the end of the year and
Speaker B [00:23:53]:
70, you said?
Speaker A [00:23:54]:
90. 90. 3 3 months. 90 day challenge. We’re pushing toward the end of and I had him do this, thing where we drew a horizontal line. And on the left side, we wrote an f. In the middle, we wrote an a, and on the right, we wrote an s. And then so if you’re picturing that on this continuum between the f and the a was comfortable and things I like to do.
Speaker B [00:24:16]:
Okay.
Speaker A [00:24:16]:
And then between the a and the s were uncomfortable and things I don’t like to do.
Speaker B [00:24:21]:
Okay.
Speaker A [00:24:22]:
So if you imagine, kind of like a fulcrum here, the f is failure, and then the a is average, and the success so the things that are keeping you stuck between average and a failure is doing the things you like to do and the things that keep you comfortable. Oh. And the things between average and success that will move you up are the things you don’t like to do and the things that make you comfortable so it’s being comfortable getting uncomfortable. I was doing a half marathon training program, and I got it on Audible. And one of the things that a trainer set in my head because you listen to her the whole half hour, 45 minutes or whatever. Yeah. It was really cool. They talked to you in your brain, and she’d give you mantras and things like that, and it was like, we’re training you to be comfortable getting uncomfortable.
Speaker B [00:25:07]:
Alright.
Speaker A [00:25:08]:
So you don’t need to feel like, oh, 9 minute mile is easy. I’m not a fast runner. 9 minute mile is easy. You just need to feel like it’s uncomfortable, but I can do it anyway. Mhmm. And that’s what’s gonna help you make progress.
Speaker B [00:25:21]:
Alright. That’s it. I did a half marathon. I don’t know if I told you this before, but I figured, I was running when I run just a few miles Mhmm. I’m doing, whatever, seven and a half, 8 minute Miles, which is not a big just like 2 or 3 miles at a time. Sure.
Speaker A [00:25:37]:
So I
Speaker B [00:25:37]:
was doing the math, and I’m like, 8 and a half, 9 minutes. And so I stand by the card where they’re holding, right, for this 8 and a half, 9 minutes. And I’m looking around, and it’s probably a 45 degree day. And I’m standing amongst the people that are in the really short shorts, the racer tank tops. Mhmm. And I’m like, no. No. I don’t belong in this group, and then the whistle blows.
Speaker B [00:25:58]:
I’m like, I guess I’m going with this group, and they left me in the dust within 200 yards.
Speaker A [00:26:03]:
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker B [00:26:04]:
It was surreal, but it’s so funny when you say slow miles. Like, I thought I was fast.
Speaker A [00:26:08]:
Oh my gosh. No. I’m No. That. I’m not that at all. I’m in it for the scenery and the accomplishment at the end.
Speaker B [00:26:13]:
I mean, in the end, something like that is you versus you.
Speaker A [00:26:16]:
Right.
Speaker B [00:26:17]:
So that goes to the whole mediocrity thing. Right. How many people are are racing or understanding that they’re advancing doing a something like that?
Speaker A [00:26:25]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:26:25]:
I guess mediocrity is more an internal thing. I guess to me, that an external thing?
Speaker A [00:26:31]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:26:31]:
I mean, it shines externally as a result. Yeah. But it’s not, it’s not the main thing. It’s more in here.
Speaker A [00:26:39]:
Yeah. What’s the story that’s going on in your head? Mhmm. Absolutely. And I think that too many of us get stuck in this comparison and then we’re like, well, it’s okay for me to settle where I am because I’ll never be I’ll never be those short short runners in Arizona, so why am I even trying? Right? And if we get stuck in that in that comparison mode, then it feels easier for us to settle. Like, well, I’m gonna be mediocre because I’ll never be that, and so this is just where I am. But the idea is that, again, you’re not competing against everyone else. You’re competing against yesterday’s version of you Right. I used to have a sticker on what my water bottle that I carry around with me at my corporate office, and it just said beat yesterday.
Speaker A [00:27:15]:
Oh. That’s all you gotta do. Like, I don’t have to be you running 7 and a half minute miles, it just gotta be better than I was yesterday.
Speaker B [00:27:22]:
Right. Beat yesterday. I like that. That’s cool.
Speaker A [00:27:24]:
Yeah. It was good.
Speaker B [00:27:25]:
Yeah. I guess, when I was standing there looking, I remember thinking, what do these guys have to do to do that?
Speaker A [00:27:32]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:27:33]:
And Am I willing to?
Speaker A [00:27:36]:
Fair.
Speaker B [00:27:37]:
So I have goals and I have things that I wanna do and all that kind of stuff, but they’re not this is just, like, I wanna say that I
Speaker A [00:27:43]:
Yeah. Or
Speaker B [00:27:44]:
just me, I finished a half marathon kind of thing.
Speaker A [00:27:46]:
Yeah.
Speaker B [00:27:47]:
I did zero training. Mhmm. Shai, I have just I run every day, but only a couple miles. Mhmm. So I had friends that are just like, you didn’t train at all? And my body certainly told me when I was done, dude, you should’ve trained. Yeah. But it was one of those, like, no. I’m not against it.
Speaker B [00:28:02]:
Kudos to them. That’s a thing, but you can’t have all of the goals.
Speaker A [00:28:06]:
Right. Well and I think that that’s that’s a really good point that you it’s okay to be mediocre in certain areas of your life if there are others where you’re striving. Right? Like, I can’t have 9 goals in 9 different life domains and expect to chase all of them at the same time, that’s just unrealistic.
Speaker B [00:28:20]:
Right.
Speaker A [00:28:21]:
Right? I can’t have 9 focuses. I can have 1. Right? Like, the one thing that I’m focusing on is this. And I’ll have some overflow and the rest of my life will improve because of it. Mhmm. But, you know, if I’m really trying to grow my business to $1,000,000, let’s say, training for a half marathon is probably not the best thing
Speaker B [00:28:39]:
for me to do right now difficult. You only get 24 hours in a day.
Speaker A [00:28:40]:
Absolutely. We all get the same.
Speaker B [00:28:41]:
Yeah. True story. This has been diary of a worthy pursuit.
Speaker A [00:28:45]:
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